How to Become a Safety/Foster Parent

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Kin Culture is a community built around caring for orphaned and vulnerable children. For many people making a difference or contributing to the cause of children in South Africa might seem like a far off dream. Kin Culture is creating opportunities for people to get involved in child care. One of the ways in which you can get involved is by signing up to become a prospective safety- or foster parent.

Process for Prospective Safety or Foster Parent(s):

1. Apply for police clearance

a. You need R96 cash, ID, proof of address

b. Complete paperwork at SAPS office

c. Mail/Courier paperwork to Pta and back

2. Obtain a form 30/29

a. Send completed form 29/30 with certified copy of ID to National Child Protection Register in Pretoria

3. Decide whether you want to do safety or foster care.

4. Contact Child Protection Organisation in your area for screening, home visit and report.

5. Once screened and okayed by Child Protection Organisation children can by placed in your care through the Children’s court.

Taking part in the future of children in South Africa can become a reality. Contact our social worker on

 

 

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KIN Culture Comes to Johannesburg

During the course of 2017 KIN Culture has been on a MyVillage mission. We have managed to partner with more than 600 people  who have all added KIN Culture as a beneficiary on their MySchool (MyVillage) cards. Over the next two weeks are expanding our efforts to the hustle and bustle of Jo’burg.

If you are in the area or have family and friends who would like to give us some love, then pop in at any of the locations below:

  • Hyde Park Centre – Woolworths, 17 August – 09:00 – 15:00
  • Rosebank Mall – Woolworths, 18 August  – 08:00 – 15:00
  • Roodepoort Lifestyle Crossing – Woolworths Food , 19 August   – 09:00 – 15:00
  • Ferndale Canterbury Crossing – Woolworths Food ,  21 August  – 09:00 – 15:00
  • Cresta Centre – Woolworths, 22 August 09:00 – 15:00
  • Broadacres – Woolworths Food,  09:00 – 15:00

Here’s how it works: Sign-up with for a MySchool/MyVillage/MyPlanet card with KIN Culture as a beneficiary and a percentage of your purchases at Woolworths, Toys ‘R Us, Waltons and other partner stores  will go towards placing vulnerable children in loving homes within our community. Easy as that, no strings attached.

For more info contact our office on   or 083 270 7774

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Being Mom

We asked Kay Lorentz, the mother to our children, what it means to be a mom. Here goes:

“I think some of the biggest lessons I have learnt about being a mom and about what I need to do to be the best I can be is that I need to live my life from the seat of love and service.  Just as God’s mercy is new every morning and He is faithful always that I do not get weary in doing good.  Good in motherhood means service and that service is often sacrificial.  It also requires that I know when service must stop and I must be there for my child and that is a balance that is not always easy to get, but as I have grown I have realised what helps me get the balance right is to not fear man… yes, do not worry about what anyone but God and my husband thinks of my best.  That best may mean my house is a mess today, but that does not reflect on the state of my relationships with my children.  They come before service.

Kay Lorentz The other thing that has been very important for me is to accept each of my children as an individual  with a wealth of gifting to discover, they need shaping and development in these areas… but as I take time to get to know them they present themselves as amazing creative beings who have a gift to give the world.  This has meant to me that I allowed my kids to be “weird”  I let them have an opinion, chose what they want to wear, try and find out what their talents are before I impose my dreams on them.  This freedom to be you approach to my kids has helped them know what they like, what they want to do with life and present with surprises in their lives as they go far beyond what I had hoped and dreamed for them.

With the new little ones in my life now I am trying the same accept and discover strategy… I love the little people growing in my care now  with all their gifts and talents.” 

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

 

 

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Adoption Stories | Lombardo Family

We recently met with Timothy and Candice Lombardo. This Cape Town couple are passionate about adoption. After opting for adoption they started preparing to receive their child, but on the other hand God was also preparing them for their child. You’ll be inspired by their story. 


My husband and I had always spoken of adopting, but had planned to explore that option after we had two biological children. Our plans are however not God’s plans and after a year of unsuccessful attempts and another year of fertility testing we were told our only option would be to have IVF or more specifically ISCI. After a period of screaming, laughing and crying, we both decided that we wanted to be parents and not necessarily be pregnant to reach that goal. We decided to skip fertility treatment and went straight to the adoption agency to begin the adoption process.

After many hours of research, we approached Procare and officially began the process. After our initial meeting, my husband had a dream that we had a little girl with curly brown hair (I took it as a sign that maybe God would bless us with a biological daughter, as we did not put down a specific gender for our adoption). A few weeks later my sister approached me and said she also had a dream that we had a daughter with curly brown hair! I just kept writing everything down in my journal, trying not to get my hopes up. In this time the name Isabella just resonated with me. The beauty of its meaning and origin struck me and I knew that should we ever have a girl I would name her Isabella.

Fast forward to 9 months after we had our first meeting and we got the call that changed our lives forever. There was a little girl for us and after the matching meeting (where we saw pics of her and her history, there was no doubt that this was our daughter). And so our daughter Isabella who has curly brown hair and eyes is now 2.5 yrs old and the centre of our lives (besides Jesus of course). She is independent, strong-willed and knows what she wants. She loves to dance and sing and has amazing compassion for all living things. I know this little girl is going to do something awesome with her life and God is definitely going to use her to be a mover and a shaker.

If you would like to get involved with child care contact us on info@kinculture.org or #supportthecause by visiting our online shop or saying hello at our Watershed store in the Waterfront.

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Adoption Stories: Elke and Reima

Another great story from one of our friends, Elke Dunaiski. Not only will her thoughts keep your eyes glued to the screen, her  Bright Owl has a really neat range of hand-illustrated goodies.

WHERE DID YOUR STORY START?

It all started with a dream (Really, it literally did.)

But God laid a lot of groundwork in the years before that. From 2006 to 2010 I lived in the UK, where I worked for a child development charity. For the first time, I realised just how immensely privileged I was – with a stable, loving family, an opportunity to go to university and the freedom to live and work overseas.

I kept asking God why I had so much when others had nothing, until one day I felt Him tell me that I was asking the wrong question. When I asked what the right question was, His answer was unexpected, but something I’ll always carry with me – Ask Me instead what you should do with what you have.

Fast forward to June 2012 I was back in South Africa and one night I had the dream – I was holding a little girl who’d fallen and hurt herself. I held her in my arms and when I tried to put her down she clung on tightly. (I’d had similar dreams occasionally over the past six years, but had forgotten about them until I later found notes in my journals.)

The dream stayed with me and I couldn’t shake the thought that God was trying to tell me something, so I Googled adoption in South Africa. It felt crazy and out-there! I was in my mid-thirties, single and only just starting to figure out work and life in South Africa after my dad’s death a few months earlier.

I eventually spoke to my pastors, thinking they’d tell me that I’d lost the plot and that would be that. Instead, God had already told them that I wanted to start preparing to adopt. And He continued to confirm it

So in July 2014 I started my screening process through Wandisa and by April 2015 my name was on RACAP, South Africa’s Register on Adoptable Children and Prospective Adoptive Parents. Just seven weeks later I received the phone call to say that I’d been matched with a three and a half month old baby girl.

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TELL OF THE FIRST TIME YOU MET REIMA.

Our social workers had told us that it was possible that we’d be matched with children from other parts of the country, so I was incredibly grateful that Reima was from the Western Cape and that my mum, sisters, niece and my friend and photographer, Lizelle Lötter, could come with to bring her home.

Of course we were early! (Apparently the adoptive parents always are.) So it was a nerve-wracking wait until the social worker and her foster mother arrived. (Luckily my nine-month-old niece kept us entertained with her antics.)

My heart pounded so hard when I saw her foster mum carrying the car seat I got to hold her almost straight away and in between getting to know her foster mother and filling in the forms, I also got to feed her for the first time. (I’m deeply grateful that Lizelle was there to capture the day because it was overwhelming and emotional.)

HOW HAS YOUR LIFE CHANGED SINCE THEN AND WHAT ARE SOME OF THE CHALLENGES YOU HAVE FACED.

Everything has changed. And yet not that much. Her needs take precedence, but she’s an extremely easy going (and outgoing) kiddo who’s happiest when she’s around the people she loves. (I think I’d been so busy preparing for the ‘adoption’ part of the process that the amount of fun we have together initially took me by surprise!)

I’m faced daily with the fact that I can never, ever again be complacent about injustice in our country, that within our family of two, us and them has become us. I know that I’m going to face difficult questions from my daughter, and others, for the rest of my life.

I’ve learnt that people will criticise and stare and nudge each other when we walk by – anonymity is a thing of the past. Some days I barely notice it and I always try to assume that people stare simply because they’re curious, but at times the questions and comments can be very personal and invasive.

I’ve cried a lot. I’ve doubted myself and my ability to raise her well. I’ve been afraid. I’ve wondered how I will pay for her education. I work from home, so there are the usual attempts at work/life balance, but the privilege of being able to spend my days with her is one I’m incredibly thankful for.

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WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM THIS PROCESS.

Wow, where do I start?!?!

On a practical level the screening process was amazing! (I wish everyone who’s planning on becoming a parent had the opportunity to go through the thought processes and learning experiences we had.)

But by far the biggest lesson from our adoption journey has been learning to trust God as my (and her) Father. I worry a lot about providing for her and raising her well, teaching her the right ways, but He keeps reminding me that He’s our Father.

WHAT WOULD YOU TELL OTHER PROSPECTIVE FAMILIES WHO ARE CONSIDERING ADOPTION?

If God has spoken to you about adopting, start! Whether you begin reading more about it, get to know adoptive families or find an agency – start, and see how God walks this journey with you!

HOW HAS YOUR COMMUNITY (FRIENDS/CHURCH/CELL GROUP) BEEN INVOLVED IN YOUR LIVES BEFORE AND AFTER THE ADOPTION?

My family has been incredible! My one sister, whom we share the house with, is the most amazing aunt and I love the fact that my daughter and my niece (my other sister’s daughter) get to grow up together. They’re just five months apart and are starting to truly enjoy each other’s company. We didn’t grow up with extended family nearby, so the fact that my mum is so close by and so involved in her grandchildren’s lives isn’t something I’ll ever take for granted.

Our church small group is multicultural and crazy funny (important when you’re a slightly tearful, transracial, adoptive mum). They sat with me (many times) as I doubted myself during the screening process and they celebrated with us when she came home. (Just last week they sat listened as I talked and cried about the challenges of raising a daughter on my own. And they buy nappies. And they spend time with her. They love her and me so well)

And I’ve also discovered an incredible community of adoptive and foster families. When I first started the process I knew of one adoptive family. Now, when our adoptive group gets together, we’re easily ten families and growing continuously. It’s a community that finds each other and I don’t know how I’d do this without them

*and thanks Lizelle Lötter for the beautiful pics

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This is Home

What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.

Ever heard this saying? Whatever the case might be, this is not true for family. Home is a place where we are loved, where we feel safe, be ourselves, grow, eat, drink, play. Families and especially children take ‘home’ with them. How they feel, what they’ve experienced and whether they’ve been loved.

The opposite of this ideal also exists. Many children in South Africa aren’t being loved. Safety is not the norm. Food and drink are not a daily occurrence. Among the worst cases are children sleeping on the street, having to scratch around for a few crumbs to eat or run from danger.

In South Africa every child has the right to a home. One where they are safe and are cared for. This idea has been written into our constitution. At KIN Culture we believe in home and family as some of the most important factors in a child’s life. If we can place children in a home with a family who loves them, where they are fed and nurtured then we have taken a big step towards giving them a great future. In addition to this they will have the opportunity to learn and grow – something which is made possible when they have love and safety at home.

KIN Culture Shop also stocks a wide range of quality, locally made goods. The aim is to provide people with skills and opportunities to craft these beautiful ceramics, linen and canvas products. When you buy one of these products you are contributing towards building a home for vulnerable children in the Western Cape.

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Getting Education Right

Freedom leaves us with a responsibility. The South African landscape has seen monumental changes over the last number of years. The future of a generation is cradled in what we do with our freedom. One of the pillars of society is education.

The right to learn, the responsibility to teach

  • Everyone has the right to education. Education shall be free, at least in the elementary and fundamental stages. Elementary education shall be compulsory. Technical and professional education shall be made generally available and higher education shall be equally accessible to all on the basis of merit.  
  • Education shall be directed to the full development of the human personality and to the strengthening of respect for human rights and fundamental freedoms. It shall promote understanding, tolerance and friendship among all nations, racial or religious groups, and shall further the activities of the United Nations for the maintenance of peace.  
  • Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.  

Article 26 – UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights

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It is one thing to have the right to education. It is another thing to have the means to exercise that right. Many vulnerable children do not necessarily have the support structure of a functional family or nurturing community. Without this network of care and support, a young child will struggle to benefit from this basic human right.

In the light of Human Rights Day, it is important to also think about the responsibility we have towards these children.

If they have the right to learn, we have the responsibility to teach, and to do what we can to provide an environment within which they can benefit from their basic human right to education.

It is one of the hopes we have at KinCulture. To be able to provide a nurturing environment for vulnerable children where they have the support they need to benefit from their basic human rights, especially also their right to education.

Read more on how you can join is in taking up our responsibility to secure their rights.

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Children’s Rights, Our Responsibility

Children are one of South Africa’s greatest commodities. If you have been anywhere outside of your house over the past few years you would know that a lot of the “big people talk” had something to do with politics, the petrol price, corruption and the state of our nation. What about the rights of our children?

According to section 28 of the constitution of South Africa, every child has the right:

  • to family care or parental care, or to appropriate alternative care when removed from the family environment;
  •  to basic nutrition, shelter, basic health care services and social services;
  • to be protected from maltreatment, neglect, abuse or degradation;

(extract from LeadSA website , see their website for the full list)

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These rights become our responsibility. Children should be nurtured in families; not left to their own devices. Basic nutrition should be normal. In many cases children from entire schools are receiving only one meal per day. The children aren’t fasting or catching the latest social media craze – this is all they have. Do we even look at the child’s right to be protected from abuse? The 7 o’clock news is enough to make you wonder at times.

KIN Culture believes that children  are filled with loads of potential. Our aim is to place every child in a home with a loving family. Receive basic care. Three meals a day, access to medical facilities and a community who believes in them is part of the KIN Culture DNA.

A bright future is held in the hands of our children.

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Adoption Stories – Le Roux Family – Dad’s View

willem blog pic 2 resizeEveryone loves a story. Hearing about other’s experiences entertains, inspires and possibly leaves us with some food for thought at the end. Listening to the Le Roux family’s account of adopting Lukas into their family will probably do all of the above. Up next is Willem. You’ll enjoy reading his part of the story.

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I am in some respects the opposite to my beautiful, fun-loving, caring wife. I am quite serious and I like being in control, which the Lord is curing through our children. I was therefore quite nervous when Melissa was pregnant with our first daughter. Suffice to say God has absolutely blown my mind with the capacity that He has created in my heart to love our little mini-me’s!

Nonetheless, as Melissa explained, going through the process to adopt a child was with a dash of trepidation for the unknown. As time passed, the excitement grew on my side as well, feeling a sense of purpose and confident knowing that this was exactly what God wants for Melissa and I to do.

Early on in the process I wondered about the risk was of adopting a child that I might struggle to bond with. However, in wrestling with the Lord, I gained full confidence that my faith and trust could be in our loving Heavenly Father, who gives every good and perfect gift. I never looked back after that.

It did help to have Melissa pouring out her love and affection on Lukas on the day we got him – it took the pressure off me, being slower to respond on the emotions. What I can say is that this little “beertjie” of mine is my first choice, firstborn son and there is no backup plan. I love him so much and I am tempted to convince everyone to adopt a son. He is a source of constant joy, has an infectious laugh and zest for life which inspires me.

willem blog pic 3 resizedMelissa said that adopting Lukas was exactly the same as having biological kids. I fully agree. I would caution everyone going through the same process to drop your expectations, trust God that He is not confused about who He will place in your care and allow yourself to be excited at the prospect of being part of God’s plan for this world. And of course the biggest privilege is to do life with a spirit-being, created by God, with a perfect plan for his or her life and to impart something of God’s way in that spirit.

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Adoption Stories – Le Roux Family

KIN Culture values family. We are privileged to be connected to many volunteers, families and churches. We believe that family is the fabric of a healthy community, by which we are woven together. For this very reason adoption is at the top of our list.

Willem, Melissa, Mia, Lisa and Lukas are a family from the northern suburbs of Cape Town and have connected with KIN Culture as volunteers. We find their adoption story inspiring and hope that many others will follow suit as we do our bit in building a safe South Africa for our children.

Not many things in this world compares to a mother’s heart and Melissa’s version is an apt reflection. You can come back in a bit for dad’s version 😉
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I have wanted to adopt from a young age. I love being practical about my faith and so adoption, with my natural love for kids, has just always seemed an obvious way to react to the social issues in our country and the call God places on us to take care of the orphans in our community. I am also an idealist so when I heard the stats that said, should each individual who call themselves Christian, adopt one child we would eradicate the need for orphanages. It was this beautiful idea that finalised my decision that I would adopt some day.

This said, I then met Willem, a man after God’s own heart, but when talking about the possibility of adoption I realized that it was something he had not thought about at all. Rather than badger him about the topic before we got married I felt I should trust God to place the desire to adopt in his heart.

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We had been married for two years when we visited my mom’s church one Sunday morning. The pastor made an altar-call for those standing in faith for family members and as a family we all went forward for a family situation we were going through at the time. When we drove home, Willem told me that while he was in front of the church he felt God asking him if he would adopt a child. Willem committed that day to the Lord that he would. Thankfully I married an honourable man whose yes is his yes.

When we started our family planning, we decided that we would like to have two biological children before adopting. The excitement grew as the years went by.

It was with great excitement that we contacted

ProCare in Wellington towards the end of 2015. We wanted the gap between our second and third child to be about two years.The process took us just short of 9 months before we got our call that our baby would be waiting for us on our return of a June Holiday in 2016. I felt as if we had waited an eternity.

On the 12th of June, we went to pick up Lukas Willem Sibusiso (the names we gave him). Our dream came true. Not only for us but for his two sisters. They simply adore their baby brother.

I had been praying for Lukas for many years by now, but I believe that God showed me that we are primarily spiritual beings before we are soul and body. I therefore regularly prayed that his spirit, which isn’t bound by time or space, would never have experienced being orphaned. He has always been wanted, dreamt of and hoped for. He has always been our son.

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Lukas was smiling the day we picked him up and hasn’t stopped, except when we are late with his food. A typical boy.

That first night home I remember cuddling him, all sorts of ‘what if’ questions popped up into my mind, I entrusted all those fears to the Lord that night and without exception have experienced Him completely dispelling all my anxious thoughts.

I can truly say that the adoption process is so similar to having biological children. The waves of emotion, the elation and the fears, how tired you get at times, the pride and the unconditional extravagant love is all the same.

We have an amazing family and community around us who have been as excited to make Lukas part of their lives and as with our older children, which has made this part of our life story an even greater joy.

I have also learnt to enjoy the connection Lukas and I have with the outside world. At first it made me uneasy and protective that people would look in our direction when we were in the public. I quickly realised that people are curious. It would be a waste of my emotional energy if I chose to be offended at every glance. My more relaxed approach to lingering stares has led to the most wonderful chats with perfect strangers. I love seeing how our baby boy’s smile disarms the most fervent critic. He is changing the world already and he is only 10 months old.

 

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